Psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz, author of Becoming Real: Defeating the Stories We Tell Ourselves That Hold Us Back, confirms that toxic friendships indeed exist. "These so-called toxic relationships will drain you and suck up your emotional energy," she says.
As such, friends who are too needy and negative are also classified as toxic. Florence Isaacs, author of Toxic Friends/True Friends, points out: "Toxic friends stress you out, use you, are unreliable, are overly demanding, and don't give anything back."
So, just what do you do when you have a "frenemy"?
Dr. Jenn Berman, author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy Confident Kids, suggests the following:
1. Learn to say, "No!" Start taking better care of yourself and forget about pleasing your toxic friend. Don't feel guilty when you refuse to do what he or she asks.
2. Get professional help. A toxic friend might need professional help at some point. Your "frenemy" may act toxic because of a mental disorder of some sort. Do as much as you can to help him or her get in touch with a psychiatrist who can give the appropriate treatment.
3. Call it quits. If your "frenemy" continues to be an emotional vampire even after you've tried everything to help him or her, then it's time for you to cut your losses and walk away. You also have to think of yourself.
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